Mediation and Child Custody

What is “mediation” with regard to child custody?
When parents cannot agree on who will have “custody" of their children, the judge will send them to mediation. In some states, like California, it is mandatory that parties go to mediation before they have a hearing in front of a judge.

What if the parties cannot agree on custody?
The judge may ask a “mediator” to assist the parties with making a bustody agreement or parenting plan or to suggest one. A parenting plan states who the child lives with and who makes
important decisions for the child. It also can cover visitation and child support.

What is a “mediator”?
Mediators are neutral, third parties who try to facilitate a resolution for the parties. They help
parents make parenting plans that are good for the children. Mediators know how to work with separated couples, and they are trained to understand domestic situations. If you are worried about your safety or your children’s safety and welfare, you should tell the mediator. You are permitted to speak with the mediator alone.

What do mediators do?
The mediator will try to help you make a parenting plan that:
• protects you and your children
• states how you and the other parent will make decisions about the children
• states when the child will be with each parent

Mediators also can suggest safe ways to get the children to and from visits with the other parent.
Mediators can also tell you about getting help with housing, counseling and other family related issues.

A mediator is used to try to get the parties to come to a good resolution, without the need to have a hearing before the court. However, a mediator's recommendations are not binding. If an agreement cannot be reached, then the child custody issue will go before a judge, who can make a binding decision, called an "order."